“Stop crying to me”: Woman ignores brother’s complaints about his family life because she “warned him” about his wife’s red flags, causing family dilemma

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    AITA for telling my brother to stop crying to me because he ignored the red flags and my warnings and start figuring out what's best for his kids?

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    My brother met his wife 6.5 years ago. She was semi-recently divorced with two daughters (8 and 6 at the time). She was honest about the fact she wanted more kids and it was the reason behind her divorce. It was also clear while my brother was dating her that her daughters knew the reason and resented her and him
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    for it. He told me she wanted a large family of six or more kids. I told him that there were a lot of red flags and what about the daughters she already had. I asked him if he thought they'd accept half siblings born when to them when it was clear they see the situation as they weren't good enough or just plain enough for
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    their mom and she blew up the family to have more kids. He told me kids come around in time and if they had kids quickly the age gap would be small enough for a good relationship to form. I told him he should really consider whether this was the makings of a happy family or of a fractured one. He told me I was being overly negative.
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    Right now my brother has a 5 year old, a 4 year old and a 2 year old with his wife. And her daughters do not claim any of them as siblings. The best they can offer is completely ignoring their half siblings but that doesn't happen as much as them getting mad at their younger half siblings.
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    It's clear they resent them for being born. They hate my brother and speak to him like he's trash they found on the bottom of their shoes. Their relationship with their mom seems to be more fights than anything else. I had a front row seat to several fights between them and have heard the comments the girls make about the younger kids.
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    Now my brother has tried crying to me about it because his oldest is sad that the girls ignore her. She doesn't understand and she wants to sit with her older sisters and watch TV with them or play dolls but either they ignore her or they yell at her and tell her she's not their sister. The three kids have witnessed fights between their mom and older sisters.
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    They've heard their older sisters say incredibly angry and hurtful things and the oldest is able to repeat stuff more.
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    It upsets my brother. He "doesn't understand" how the girls can reject the kids so easily and how they truly don't seem to have any sibling or familial affection for them. He told me he hates it, it makes him depressed and he's not sure what's going to happen and he feels this and that. His
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    focus was on him and I wasn't here for it. I told him to stop crying to me when I was the person who warned him about this, who pointed out the red flags and he ignored it. I told him instead he needs to get his sh together and figure out what's best for his kids and how he can do the best by his kids now that he has helped to create this cluster ck.
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    Beatrice Tantalizing 20h ago NTA. Your brother played himself. He saw the warning signs in 4K, ignored them, and now wants to act surprised when things turned out exactly how you said they would. The man thought he was building a
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    blended Brady Bunch and ended up in a Maury episode.
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    Crying to you won't change the fact that those older girls are never gonna see his kids as siblings. He needs to step up and figure out how to protect his kids from growing up in this mess instead of whining about it like he didn't sign up for the chaos himself.
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    CakeZealousideal... • 17h ago NTA. Everyone is worried about the "new" kids and their feelings and the older kids are being dismissed yet again. What a sh show. Now there's going to be 5 kids that grow up to be 5 adults with a host of issues because the adults in their life are selfish pos
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    wasmachmada • 19h ago NTA These poor girls really have no one in their corner, their mothers ks so bad and your brother is dumb as sh. I can't believe anyone thought this clusterf would work out fine.
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    cate of Marriag is certifies that aly Mat
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    Sun MoonTruth • 16h ago ΝΤΑ. He "doesn't understand" How his wishful thinking was just that and not the reality he was actually dealing with when the girls had already
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    been pretty clear about their true evaluation of their mother and her subsequent relationship and potential offspring? He doesn't understand?
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    e... 20h ago. Edited 18h ago NTA Your brother was aware and made conscious decisions believing he knew better and could bulldozer his was into creating a Brady bunch type of situation.
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    The "new' children are struggling and it's no one's fault but his and his wife. All you can do is create a safe space for them but there is no magic way to fix this.
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    Therapy can only do so much and it doesn't look like the elder children would be willing to engage given they had strong feelings prior to the marriage.
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    Your brother and his wife are awful selfish people who has created this toxic environment and now both sets of children are suffering.

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